43-Year-Old Marriage Collapses Over Sex

THERE was laughter in a Local Court in Lusaka when a man said that he cannot sleep in the same bed with a woman without making love to her.

He however complained that when he touched his wife she always moved away and that was the reason he had been away from the matrimonial home.

Alick Kambizyi, 61, a farmer of John Laing compound was testifying in a case in which his wife, Mary Cheelo, 58, sued him for divorce alleging that he moved out of matrimonial home and married another woman.

The two got married in 1975 and have nine children.

Cheelo told Senior Court Magistrates Abbyshine Michelo and Esther Mulomba at Kanyama Local Court that she sued Kambizyi because he left the matrimonial home in 2009 and married another woman.

She explained that problems started when Kambizyi married another woman in 2009 and that in 2017 he married a third woman. Cheelo added that Kambizyi doesn’t see her as a woman and that he takes care of the other two wives.

‘’Kambizyi stays in Garden House and just comes on the fifth of every month to collect rentals and leaves K50 or K100 on the table,’’ said Cheelo.

In defence, Kambizyi said that problems started in 2012 when his job contract was terminated and that in 2014 he decided that they start farming but Cheelo refused.

Kambizyi admitted marrying a second wife in 2012 and that in 2016 she told him when they were sleeping that there would be no sex because the other wife was sick.

‘’Since 2016 we haven’t been making love, I can’t manage to sleep with a woman in the same blanket without making love to her it was the reason I have been away because when I touch her she moves away I fear I can assault her,’’ said Kambizyi.

Kambizyi said that he married another woman in 2017 to relieve himself because the second wife was sick.

The court said that it was troubled because Kambizyi and Cheelo were elderly people who should be teaching children especially that they had been married for 43 years.

The court further noted that the other woman was sick and that was the reason Cheelo feared to make love with Kambizyi.

The court granted the couple divorce without compensation but ordered Cheelo to remain in the house and should be collecting rentals for her livelihood.

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